Excited to be performing tonight in the spirit of sisterhood at the British Muslim Heritage Centre in Manchester! Comedy with the talented Sadia Azmat and the inspiring Dr Shameela Zulfiqar as host! Join us xx
Syria: Reaching Out to Children and Parents of War Exhibition 4/5/6 June 2015.
Met the very inspiring women, Aalaa and Kim, who organised the exhibition which consists of groundbreaking parent/childcare research, interviews and testimonials, short film, children’s activities, music by Chris Davies, art work by Syrian refugee children and an insight to syrian food and culture.
This truly was a moving portmanteau of life under conflict and would be beneficial in raising awareness in other areas regionally regarding the Syrian plight. Please inbox me if you can provide space where this could be set up again, ideally in areas where the Syrian crisis is underrepresented. Some of the information from the short film, listed below, really struck a chord as I listened to accounts by parents of the post traumatic stress they have to deal with.
‘My children would be sleeping and scared at the same time. They would run up and ask me to charge them. And I too would need them to charge me’
‘I’d cover their ears from the shelling.’
‘They would need to blindly trust me. So we invented ‘red code’ so when I mentioned the colour they would know to do as I said, no questions asked’
‘The war taught children to be aggressive with each other. We didn’t know what they wanted.’
‘The children learnt to differentiate war planes from cluster bombs and barrel bombs from tanks.’
‘If we became pregnant we would have fear concerning the birth. How would we get to hospitals through blockades that would last days.’
‘We all had ID cards but the younger kids have nothing to mark their identities, character and dreams. I want them to know they are part of a family and not alone- that they have roots to build a future.’
‘We used wireless devices originally used by the army called ‘qabda’. All homes had one to relay specific news. We would hear of planes heading towards a place, towards Saraqib, so we would get ready in robes and gloves. Children would dress and unlock doors so we could make a quick escape.’
‘When we reunited as families and were resettled in Britain, we found it difficult to explain new culture to our children. They would question why there were so many dogs around and thought the churches were big mosques.’
‘As asylum seekers you expect relief and rest but its like crossing a sea and there is a high mountain in front of you.’
‘Our kids are very afraid of aeroplanes and uniformed soldiers or police. We have left the war but the war has not left us. We explained to our children that the police here protect and serve in the UK.’
‘Our kids don’t have a sense of stability because we were always on the move all the time. Toys and friends etc were always changing during the conflict. children.’
‘The children cry easily. I pray inshAllah we will get them to forget and remove the terror from within them. Islam teaches integration and citizenship. To an extent we feel we belong to this country now.’
‘It’s difficult for a mother to parent a child alone and in war family is the most important. I want my children to learn and deal with loss, to be able to carry on with energy and strength. I want to be the safe shore, no matter how far they go out to sea.’
‘We had to protect and provide for our children so could not parent or raise them how we would like.’
‘We want them to forget the war but not their background, tradition, roots or culture.’
Allow yourself the uncomfortable luxury of changing your mind.
Do nothing out of guilt, or for prestige, status, money or approval alone.
Be generous with your time and your resources and with giving credit and, especially, with your words.
Build pockets of stillness into your life.
Maya Angelou famously said, ‘When people tell you who they are, believe them’. But even more importantly, when people try to tell you who you are, don’t believe them.
Presence is far more intricate and rewarding an art than productivity. As Annie Dillard memorably put it, “how we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives.”
Debbie Millman captures our modern predicament beautifully: “Expect anything worthwhile to take a long time”.
On Saturday night I was extremely honoured to host Masoom’s 7th Annual oriental themed, Glamour Night for charity in London. I met some very inspirational women who dedicate their time to providing orphan sponsorship, financial aid, emergency supplies, educational facilities and support to vulnerable women and children across Tanzania, Pakistan, Syria and Gaza as well as working within their local communities too.
From projects such as the ‘Brick by Brick’ initiative that has set up a mosque and school in Pakistan, to the ‘Stitch’ project which teaches sowing skills as a means of income for female prison inmates in Pakistan and Tanzania to lift them out of the cycle of poverty, to the Hifz Ul Quran initiative educating female orphans to the gaining of qualifications for widows at Mwanza college in Tanzania, to a school set up in the heart of Olive Tree refugee camp, to humanitarian work carried out in Gaza, this small NGO has relentlessly worked hard to make a positive difference in the world and I was very proud to be part of it.
The sisters dressed up in accordance with the theme and the night unravelled an auction, Chinese ribbon and fan dance, songs, martial arts demo, quizzes, poetry and pledges, all making for a riveting evening that helped raise money for the thousands of people in dire need right now! Please like the Facebook page and follow Masoom on Twitter or to keep up to date with their projects, visit the website on http://www.masoom.org.uk
Al Fatiha Global Winter Appeal – SYRIA!
Our Syrian Winter Appeal is now underway! We are distributing winter clothing, including Coats, Hats, Gloves, Abayas, Hijabs and Boots. With only £36, you too can provide #WinterPacks in Syria.
Make a difference & Donate today at: http://www.AlFatihaGlobal.com
“Whoever guides someone to virtue will be rewarded equivalent to him who practices that good action.” (Muslim)
Encourage others towards these good deeds, share with your family and friends and together lets keep Syria warm this Winter..